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Are Women Better Leaders?

24/04/2012 16:59

The question of whether women lead differently from men or are women better leaders is being researched and being documented more than ever before. In last few years I have at least been hearing about the ‘100 most influential women’ and ‘Top 100 women in business’ kind of categories. Not to say that I am too happy with this entire market based notion of leadership and being counted as influential but at least now there is a more vocal discussion around this.

A recent study at Harvard school has stirred a lot of discussion around this. (https://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/03/a_study_in_leadership_women_do.html). Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman of Harvard business school have certainly brought out a very pertinen t issue that needs to be thought over. The mere fact that this was the most read article of the past 30 days proves it’s relevance. The sample size is 7000 interviews using 360 degree interviews.

So what does this article say? The first finding shows that the majority of leaders (64%) are still men. And the higher the level, the more men there are: In this group, 78% of top managers were men, 67% at the next level down (that is, senior executives reporting directly to the top managers), 60% at the manager level below that. And this is quite a predictable reality, is it not?

Now let us look at the details of the findings in terms of the skill set.

Now here is the list of competencies in which out of 16, 15 competencies where women are showing marginal to medium difference where women are better than men. And of course, the areas of these competencies are very diverse and range from the personal integrity and value based aspects, analytical ability, communication ability; to collaboration team work and mentoring abilities, to innovation as well as professional expertise. In a recent HBR blog post, they wrote:

 

“Similarly, most stereotypes would have us believe that female leaders excel at “nurturing” competencies such as developing others and building relationships, and many might put exhibiting integrity and engaging in self-development in that category as well. And in all four cases our data concurred — women did score higher than men.

“But the women’s advantages were not at all confined to traditionally women’s strengths. In fact at every level, more women were rated by their peers, their bosses, their direct reports, and their other associates as better overall leaders than their male counterparts — and the higher the level, the wider that gap grows.”

Now look at the responses and comments received. Overwhelming majority (men) rejects the study findings arguing, ‘may be because women are less in number, their achievements are highlighted’. One person even calls the survey method as ‘the beauty contest’ (weird eh??) One person in a completely dismissive way says, ‘This playground tactic of trying to show one side better than the other doesn't help the discussion, but only hurts. Only through both sexes, working together, utilizing their individual talents, will this country, this planet evolve. The battle of the sexes died in the 70s, we all won. Now let's get back to work.’ Some men also made a point that historically women have been clever and they have been guiding things behind the shadow of the men. Some women broke away from this pattern, though that does not make them a better (or worse) leader. I am now not going on with further writing down of all the responses. How very same pattern of stereotypes, arguments, denials and often accusations to prove the study wrong!! By saying this, I do not wish to defend whether the study is right or wrong, whether they employed correct methodology or not etc. Just one glance at the responses makes you wonder why so much of defensiveness?

There are three types of responses: (i) which rejects the study using all the same stereotypes that have been going rounds to not let women participate. (ii) Second set of people saying, we agree but this issue is not about gender, leave that aside and let’s talk about performance. (iii) And then there is the third group of responses who says women are better and they do face challenges in the work scenario.

Though I partly agree with the third category of responses, I have a different take on the issue. So here is my response to the study -

" Thank you Mr.  Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman for this study. What a pertinent issue! Thank you for voicing out through your data that women are better and women ARE being sidelined. I read all the comments to your article with equal interest as I read the article itself. And this beings me to one very basic question. I want to ask all those people (incidentally, most are men). Have you ever wondered why is it that time and again women are being asked to produce the proof of being 'better' than men? Even for getting their fair share they have to build a case for being better. And on the other hand, when they are stereotyped as 'not being better', then also the onus of responsibility is smartly shifted on women's shoulders. Quite clever of all those who do not want to see women in equal footing, eh!

Heck, who cares whether women are better than men or not. I want to be considered as good or as bad as men are and get my 50 % share in the world... How many men have the ability to treat women as equals!!???

Democracy and Pluralism in an interdependent World

26/03/2012 23:18

Contemplative... I am thinking and reflecting on the discussions that we had around religion, spirituality and it’s role in enhancing/ breaking peace.

I was part of a panel discussion around ‘Women leading Change’ that was organised by Aga Khan Foundation Canada, and one of the questions that emerged during the discussions was around rising fundamentalism and the role that religion plays in the larger scheme of affairs. Sally Armstrong, a leading human rights activist, journalist, film maker and author (https://www.ucalgary.ca/peacestudies/2010_peaceprize) asked me the question, ‘What would you say to the religious leaders who are trying to obstruct women’s participation and leadership across the sectors’. As a believer, who does not believe in institution of religion, this question has been lingering in my mind since then.

Trying to paint the world with any single colour is dangerous. Saying that religion as an institution simply needs to be broken down without giving people time to make choices for themselves can be as dangerous as the reverse of it. History has been witness to both the kinds of extremism; be it in case of Turkey, other extreme communist countries etc. where religion ws simply not allowed to be practiced, or, extreme religious countries where questioning the institution can be a reason enough to be denied you life. I wonder whether I would actually say anything to the religious extremist. For me perhaps the answer lies at strengthening pluralism, contributing my bit by making my life and places of engagement more plural and diverse. For me, answer also lies at strengthening the ability of us all to question and find the non violent ways to seek answers to those. For me, it is also about strengthening people’s access to justice and democratic institutions.

Just as I would not call all the aspects of religions as good, I am also afraid, treating all the aspects as bad (and hence, to be discarded without giving time to the people, institutions, nation states to make an informed choice) is equally dangerous. Religion and faith needs to be sen seperately. On one hand where there were arguments the Iran, Afghanistan and such are the examples of religious obstructions to women’s emancipation, US’s ‘forced support’ to the people to get rid of the ‘tyrants’ in the form of war is perhaps more destructive.

I will again come back to this post after a while…

Paradox of Morality and Values

20/02/2012 22:50

Have you ever wondered about the paradoxical world that we live in!? Viewing this question from the inter - genertional perspective turns it even more interesting (and disturbig at many places!)

Today evening, I was sitting with the fellow GCLers in the lounge of Internaiotnal House, sipping my cup of tea and relaxing in front of the t.v. that I rarely watch, we entered into the discussion on the 'ever hot' topic of husbands/ partners and how everyone is missing their loved ones (espcially the children and husbands). One of my friends said, 'I just want to be with my children and husband now. I am missing them.' I dont remember how, but the discussion took us to the point whether we ever kiss our husband or partner in front of our children. And obviously, despite the distance of whole continent between India and Africa, the answer was that it is not allowed in our cultures. This is considered as 'bad thing' to do and children should not be watching it.

I only had one question, how many of us fight or have fought in front of our children? And almost everyone had fought at some or the other point of time despite the presence of the children!

We teach our children the values of 'Love', 'Compassion', 'sharing', yet we consider 'kissing', 'hugging' or even touching our partner as 'immoral'. Where as we always tell our children, 'not to fight but argue', 'don't raise your voice to the top of the roof', 'quarrels don't help', yet we don't mind doing that in front of children.

Do we want our children to give importance to 'values' or 'morality'???????

 

 

 

 

Still I Rise

15/02/2012 04:02

This is for my favourite poet Maya Angelou -

I read her book, I Know Why Caged Birds Sing. And, I fell in love with her... She is a phenomenal, phenomenal woman...

Dr. Maya Angelou is a remarkable Renaissance woman who is hailed as one of the great voices of contemporary literature. As a poet, educator, historian, best-selling author, actress, playwright, civil-rights activist, producer and director, she continues to travel the world, spreading her legendary wisdom. Within the rhythm of her poetry and elegance of her prose lies Angelou's unique power to help readers of every orientation span the lines of race. Angelou captivates audiences through the vigor and sheer beauty of her words and lyrics. (source: https://mayaangelou.com/)

Some of my favourite quotes and poems... Thank you for giving a voice to what I feel within!

“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”
 
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”
 
“Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.”
 
“I love to see a young girl go out and grab the world by the lapels. Life's a bitch. You've got to go out and kick ass.”
 
“Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!”
 
“If I am not good to myself, how can I expect anyone else to be good to me?”
 
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”
 
“I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.”
 
“My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry; to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.”
 
“Most people don't grow up. Most people age. They find parking spaces, honor their credit cards, get married, have children, and call that maturity. What that is, is aging.”
 
“I’ve got a magic charm
That I keep up my sleeve,
I can walk the ocean floor
And never have to breathe.”

 
“How important it is for us to recognize and celebrate our heroes and she-roes!”
 

Alone

Lying, thinking
Last night
How to find my soul a home
Where water is not thirsty
And bread loaf is not stone
I came up with one thing
And I don't believe I'm wrong
That nobody,
But nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.

There are some millionaires
With money they can't use
Their wives run round like banshees
Their children sing the blues
They've got expensive doctors
To cure their hearts of stone.
But nobody
No, nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Now if you listen closely
I'll tell you what I know
Storm clouds are gathering
The wind is gonna blow
The race of man is suffering
And I can hear the moan,
'Cause nobody,
But nobody
Can make it out here alone.

Alone, all alone
Nobody, but nobody
Can make it out here alone.

I Know Why The Caged Bird Sings

The free bird leaps
on the back of the win
and floats downstream
till the current ends
and dips his wings
in the orange sun rays
and dares to claim the sky.

But a bird that stalks
down his narrow cage
can seldom see through
his bars of rage
his wings are clipped and
his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing.

The caged bird sings
with fearful trill
of the things unknown
but longed for still
and is tune is heard
on the distant hillfor the caged bird
sings of freedom

The free bird thinks of another breeze
an the trade winds soft through the sighing trees
and the fat worms waiting on a dawn-bright lawn
and he names the sky his own.

But a caged bird stands on the grave of dreams
his shadow shouts on a nightmare scream
his wings are clipped and his feet are tied
so he opens his throat to sing

The caged bird sings
with a fearful trill
of things unknown
but longed for still
and his tune is heard
on the distant hill
for the caged bird
sings of freedom.

 

World of small wonders

22/01/2012 06:27

Sitting at Toranto airport I gazed at other two women who I think are also going for the same course. But I am too tired and lazy to go and inquire! Going by the logic that the place where I am going has a population of 5000 people (thanks to Google the world is so much closer!), having two women from Africa on the plane can not be a mere co-incidence, and I was right, these women were the GCL’ers who I was to meet after reaching Halifax. 

We were welcomed at Halifax by Cindy. It feels nice to find a face to the email communications. My luggage had arrived much before me so I lugged everything on the trolley and Cindy very warmly offered us coffee and muffins. This is where I met my friend Chheng from Cambodia, who was waiting for us at Tim Horton's. And the journey began...

As we move out of the warmth of the airport to -9 degree celcius, Chheng does something that touched me. She bent down and touched the snow! Upon asking the reason she said, I have never seen snow in my life so I had promised my mom that the first thing I would do as soon as I reach here will be, to touch the snow. Makes me wonder, do we really need to wait for something really ‘Big’ to find the wonders around us?

When was the last time when you did something for the first time? 

Ode to Myself

21/01/2012 05:46

 As I rush to finish my work and hurriedly pack my bags for the four months journey of learning at ‘Global Change Leaders Program’, a stream of thoughts goes on in my mind. On one hand is the excitement of meeting many new inspiring people, the opportunity to share about my work and the ‘change’ that I wish to see in this world, time for reflecting on my work so far and at the same time, the fear of leaving the work which is already going on at the jet speed and I do not want to loose out on that too!

Going away from the people who make my world so special specially when I am not sure whether I will be meeting them where I left, is a pull form the other side… But here I am, standing at the airport, waiting for my turn…

 

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